A girlfriend recently emailled me to say that she had prepared an evening picnic for her partner. She had put the children to bed and had laid out some beautiful food and drink on a blanket in the living room for her beloved when he got home.
It struck me instantly that it was a wonderful thing to do. Romantic, thoughtful, pleasing, simple.
Ladies, do you ever wish or grumble that your partner is never romantic? What do you mean by that? Do you ever make romantic gestures for him? Well do you?
It is easy for us to complain about the lack of romance displayed by our men. But if we never reciprocate then what do we expect? I'd like to encourage all ladies to start to do a little more on the romance stakes. Sometimes perhaps we expect too much of our men. And if we display the behaviour we would like to experience then others tend to follow suit. When we are polite, we tend to be spoken to politely. If we are angry and aggressive, our opposite number usually reacts with anger and aggression.
So if we are romantic and loving, why would our loved ones not react in a similar manner? Try it. I'm going to.
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Great idea Helen.
ReplyDeleteEnclosed are my favourite romantic suggestions. What do others consider their favourites?
1. Surprise him with tea in bed in the morning
2. Buy his favourite cake from the local bakery
3. Give him a foot massage
4. Hug and kiss him - lots and lots and lots and tell him you love him every single day
5. Appreciate and thank him for all the things he does for you
6. Wear sexy underwear
7. Cook his favourite meal and eat in a different place than usual with candles and romantic music
8. Respect the fact that the garage and study are his domain and don't nag him to clean or tidy them
9. Listen to him talking about technical things that you have no clue about
10. Snuggle up on the sofa and watch a film together
Rona - points 8 and 9 made me laugh! Have you read Men are from Mars..."?
ReplyDeleteAnd point number 1 never fails to surprise on the rare occasion.
And what has made me laugh even more are the sponsored ads appearing on the left which all talk about relationship difficulties, online dating and romantic HD wedding videos. Way to go google!
Much though all these suggestions sound wonderful to me and I would be delighted to receive on a regular basis, the thing to remember is most guys want to do the right thing but have no idea what that is. That means, tell him outright, rather than hinting and hoping he picks it up.
ReplyDeleteIf you like flowers, Don't stand near some flowers in the supermarket and say, "these are pretty" because he's unlikely to understand you are doing anything more than making an observation.
Tell him you like flowers, that being bought flowers is romantic, then praise him if he buys you some.
:)
Kim, you must be from Mars too! As usual I agree with all you have said.
ReplyDeleteKim - you are so right. It drives my husband nuts when I or his mother hints at something. Luckily he knows both of us well enough to know what we want! He then says 'if you want flowers just ask me for some' however sometimes a girl just wants to be surprised too!
ReplyDeleteFully agree with your last point though - praise goes a long way.
Helen - items 8 and 9 are not particuarly high on the romance stakes but they do make for a happier marriage and life.